I think that one thing that my cancer diagnosis has taught me is that we need to be careful what we say to people and to not make assumptions just based on one's appearance.  I've had a couple of instances over the last several months that have really struck the wrong chord with me and I know that I need to just take it in stride and recognize the fact that people don't always know the whole story. Our church building is frustrating at times because sometimes it is super cold there and sometimes it seems really warm.  Twice over the last few months I have been in the church building and have commented to someone about how cold I think it is, only to have the person respond back to me that they think it is warm and that I'll understand more when I get older like them.  Well, guess what?  Even though I am/look young, I have gone through a surgically induced menopause - a total hysterectomy.  And yes I have hot flashes and did quite often until I found something that works for me to combat the menopause symptoms.  So on the one hand I'm a little irritated that people just presume that what they are going through I can't possibly be going through as well and on the other hand I'm grateful that I've found something that works for me so that I very rarely have hot flashes anymore.